As billions before me, I have tried to find out what enhances our chances of maintaining a beautiful erotic relationship going.
Oh, it feels like I am so little, I am so little to even count in this enormous mass of people who’ve tried before me to untangle such a dilemma. It’s a testimony for the importance of such a question. So many people have come to some sort of conclusion, however, I doubt anybody can be considered to have found anything even remotely acceptable as an answer. I’m sure most have said that love is the answer, but how can you answer a question with another question? Love is another question in itself. Do forgive my daring to add my own contribution, modest and humble. It came to me in what I usually call a moment of inspiration. I can be sure it was felt and it came from a space that makes us what we essentially are, humans.
I was at the time in the kitchen, not my own, with a lady friend. I was in love with her. She was in love with me. I’ve known her for years before we got to know each other. Very beautiful she was and intimidating to any man by the way she showed herself to the world around her. Striking beauty and style, aloof, unreachable, otherworldly she was. Only that she was not. She wanted to be loved and loved and loved forever maybe. I was sitting at the table in the kitchen, smoking and sipping a glass of red wine. She was cooking and it all felt beyond magic. I felt I wanted it to last forever. That’s when I had the inspiration. Apart from beauty I discovered intelligence, spark, and surprise. I realised then that we both have some qualities in common. I stopped at two of them and they became for me a postulate. In an erotic relationship I thought, to endure, the people involved must be curious and creative. These two qualities were instantly placed at the foundation of my being. To build your life as a beautiful and timeless castle, durable and precious foundations are a necessity.